*”When we are grateful for the good we already have, we attract more good into our life. On the other hand, when we are ungrateful, we tend to shut ourselves off from the good we might otherwise experience.”* Margaret Stortz
*”When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”* Willie Nelson
Cynthia Ozick once said that, “we often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” I couldn’t agree with this statement more. As humans, we often get stuck in the mindset of always wanting what we don’t have. The grass is greener on the other side. Other people’s circumstances seem more desirable than our own, when in reality were our roles reversed we would likely still wish to have things that we do not. It’s a part of human nature- to want. But there is so much in this world to be thankful for if we just take a moment to appreciate all that we have already been given. Some days I am mystified at all that I have been immensely blessed with, while other days I take for granted all that do I have. Some days it is easier to focus on all that I don’t have or all that I long for instead of taking the time to sit back and concentrate on all that I already have and all the wonderful things in my life that I should be thankful for.
We all have heard (and likely participated in the fabulous elementary school productions of) the Thanksgiving story in which the cute lil’ Pilgrims with their big belt buckles and funny shoes got together with the Indians full of face paint and feathers coming out of their headbands and had a marvelous array of mouth-watering chow during a three day feast. The Pilgrims were thankful for finally being liberated from the religious persecution they were facing in England. After sailing aimlessly in search of a better life, the Mayflower landed at Plymouth Rock. The Pilgrim’s first year was devastating; the conditions were harsh and many people died over the course of their first winter. However, some survived thanks to the compassionate and caring Indians who already inhabited the area. Not only did the Indians help the Pilgrims get on their feet, but they also shared their shelter, food, and clothing with them during the cruel wintry weather. In the spring, the first Pilgrim harvest was bountiful. The crops flourished and the Pilgrims began to feel hope for their future in America. The remaining Pilgrims invited the Indians, who had helped them survive the winter, to a three-day feast celebrating their survival and their thankfulness for the help and compassion that the Indians showed them. Over the next few hundred years the Thanksgiving tradition has changed and warped into the Macy’s parade, football watching, turkey-induced coma festivities that we know today. Even though there is speculation as to what exactly happened following the first Thanksgiving celebration and how it formed into the holiday we now commemorate, I think there is a lot that can be taken away from this day and the vast gratefulness shown by the Pilgrims and the selflessness the Indians bestowed upon them at Plymouth Rock.
Thanksgiving is not just a holiday that should be celebrated one day a year with more mashed potatoes or red wine than one family should legally consume and then be forgotten for the next three hundred sixty-four days. Being grateful is extremely under-rated and even more so under-utilized. Thankfulness should be something we show daily. Whether it be by saying a simple thank you to someone who opens a door for you, or giving a heart-felt hug to someone who has listened to your inner struggles, or even attempting to being gracious in all that you do because you have been blessed with things so seemingly simple as air in your lungs and love in your heart. It should be almost effortless to point out the things in our lives that we should be thankful for and rejoice for their presence in our lives but sometimes this task can be rather difficult. However, being appreciative of all that you are blessed with in life immediately increases your satisfaction in life thus making you a happier, more fulfilled person willing to offer more to others. It is so easy to take the daily things or people in our lives for granted. We rarely stop to think about what our life would be without them and therefore we are not always grateful for their presence in our lives. We simply expect them to always be there. I am constantly baffled at the thought of all that I have been blessed with without really deserving any of it. I haven’t done anything more than most people I know to deserve the joys I have in life and I certainly have done a lot less than some people who have fewer blessings. Oprah Winfrey suggests that people keep a grateful journal in order to consciously count their blessings. She recommends that every night a person should list five things that they are grateful for. She asserts that this will begin to change your perspective of your day and your life. Though I do not always agree with Oprah and all her hype, I think she hit the jackpot on this one. I believe by taking the time (even if it is only five minutes a day) to thank God for all you are blessed with that your life and outlook on it will be significantly better. You’ll begin to see the silver lining in your day instead of the gloom and doom that may be bogging you down. There will be a little more skip in your step and a little more rhythm in your song and life will be so much more joyous. 🙂
So, to jump on the Oprah Winfrey bandwagon (and this will likely be the ONLY time), here is just the beginning of my list of things that I am thankful for everyday (even though I probably don’t tell them or thank God for them enough):
1. For breath– Each day when I wake up, I realize that God has allowed me to live another day. Apart form the mechanics of a working body by providing breath in my lungs, a beating heart, and working organs- God has also offered me the gifts of love and compassion in my heart, knowledge and determination in my brain, and desire and hope in my soul. Without God, I don’t think these things and emotions would be nearly as meaningful to me as I go through my daily life. Taking the time to just exist and listen to the inhale and exhale of each breath amazes me as I think of how something so seemingly simple keeps my physical body functioning each day.
2. For a place to lay my head– I am so very lucky to have been given a place to call home. So many people go through their day not knowing where their next meal will come from or where they will go to sleep that night. I am so grateful that God has given me loving parents who have supported and provided for me in tangible ways my entire life. Sometimes I get emotional thinking about all that I do have in comparison to others and how truly blessed I am with being able to go home to “my room” and turn on “my television” and watch what I want to at the end of a long day. I can take a shower with hot, running water whenever I want, go to the refrigerator and find just about any type of food, and cuddle up to a warm fireplace on a cold winter day. I am never without the things I need to survive.
3. For my parents- I don’t know where I would be in this life without my parents. As a child, I sometimes wished I had a different set of parents (usually a friend’s who seemed more ideal and understanding when I was fighting with my own) but I am so very thankful for mine. They are loving, caring, and truly want what is best for their children. My dad has always been the breadwinner of our household and I don’t know what our family would have done without him over the years. Being the only man in a family of five, he has become a bit of a “girly-man”; from all the chick flicks to female body talk to emotional roller coasters where we beg for chocolate. He has picked up tampons from the grocery store and brought home cartons of milk and Oreos far more times than any man should ever have to. 😉 I look forward to Monday nights when my dad will come home and make fun of One Tree Hill or Chuck Bass from Gossip Girl but will still sit and watch them with me when I am sick or no one else is around and will secretly look forward to their return each Fall. I love seeing him work in the office of our home for hours on the weekends and never complain because he is so dedicated to his job and providing for our family. I cherish the time when I get to simply be in his presence and watch him do the things he loves most from fishing to leading our congregation as our church President. I am so proud of my father and the man he has become. And then there is my mother. I have never met a more loving and compassionate person than her. She has always given my sisters and I so much more than we deserve in life. She showers us with love and is our biggest support, always offering advice even though sometimes we don’t want or ask for it. She buys little gifts to cheer us up and provides all of our friends with snacks and a place to hang out or get away to any time, night or day. She is the first person who wants to hear about my day and make sure that my sisters and I are happy in life. Her happiness often stems from our happiness. Sometimes I hate this notion that my emotions can control how she feels, but that is just the way my mom is programmed. Over the years, so many of my sister’s and my friends have confided in my mom and value her opinion on things. She genuinely cares about those in her life and will do anything she can to better their lives. My mom is the backbone of our family and I don’t know where any of us would be without her selfless love and support.
4. For living in America– I often take for granted the fact that I am a free citizen. So many people in other parts of the world do not have even one ounce of the freedom that we as Americans do. I am able to express myself through writing in this blog post. I was able to attend whatever college I wanted and pursue any career that my heart was leading me towards. And I was able to change my mind and still succeed along the way. I am able practice my religion and chose whom to vote for in any election without fear of backlash or reprimand if I don’t agree with my neighbor. Anything I could possibly want or desire is at my fingertips and my every need is met almost immediately. If I’m cold all I need to do is go to the closet and grab a blanket and if I am sick there are 24-hour facilities that will take the steps necessary to speed my recovery. I don’t have to live in constant fear of terrorist attacks because there are so many men and women fighting for my freedom daily. I am so thankful for the soldiers who dedicate their lives to making me free and for being born an American citizen.
5. For having been in love- Though I am sometimes saddened and upset knowing that I was in love with someone who for the last few months of our relationship made me an option instead of a priority, I am so happy that I was able to experience it. Being so devoted and engrossed in another person is the best feeling in the world even if they one day change their mind and you are left to pick up the pieces of your broken heart. I wouldn’t trade the feeling of being in love for any other feeling in the world. Being in love with all of you and giving your heart selflessly to someone who has the power to destroy it is a scary thing. But when that love is reciprocated it truly is the most gratifying feeling in the entire world. Love has made me feel more alive than anything ever has. Having loved someone with every fiber of my being and being folded like an unlucky hand of poker makes me both scared and hopeful for the future. I don’t want to hurt the way I have in the past but I don’t want to miss out on real love in the future because I am scared of the possible pain. Love makes me want to get up in the morning, makes me long for the future, and makes me realize that one day I will meet my prince charming and realize why it never worked with anyone else before. I know how full my heart was and how intense my feelings were when I was in love with the wrong person that I anticipate how miraculous it will be when I find the right person. I am thankful for having been willing to give my heart to someone in the past and not knowing how it will end up (even though right now I am not willing to try it again, just yet—I know when the perfectly imperfect man walks into my life I will be more than ready). Real love is selfless and I can’t be upset that I gave all of myself to someone that later decided I wasn’t what they wanted in the world. This just means that one day, I will find true love and that love will surpass any love I have already experienced. And that day will be a day I will be so very thankful for.
6. For my faith- I don’t know where my life would be without my faith. From the time I was born God has been a solid foundation on which I stand. I am so blessed to have two parents who planted the seed of faith in my heart at such an early age. Having gone through some of the things I have in life, I don’t think I would have survived without the true knowledge in my heart that I have a purpose in life, that God has a plan for me, and that eternal life in Heaven awaits me. There have been times where I have given up on myself and didn’t value the person I was. There have also been times where God was not even a blip on my conscious radar. But He was always firmly cemented at the center of me, often without me even realizing. During those times when I knew I was about to do something I didn’t truly want, need, or should do, I’d often get a pit in my stomach that would cause me to question my participation. I now realize that those feelings were God tugging at my heartstrings and my conscience showing me right from wrong. On days where I didn’t want to get out of bed and face another day, it was almost as if He were standing over me as a patient father saying, “Please, my child, get up. Things will get better. I promise. You just have to keep on living.” I don’t know the person I would be or if I’d even be alive if I didn’t have faith. God believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself and He has given me the answers and clarification I need to keep pushing forward as I walk this Earth. His everlasting love and plan for me have helped me become the person I am today and will shape the person I hope to become in the future.
7. For my sisters- There is no greater gift than that of family and my sisters are no exception. All of my childhood memories include my two beautiful siblings and I could not imagine (nor would I want to) my life without them. My baby sister, Lindsey is one of the most kind and impartial people I know. She is wise beyond her years and truly listens and observes others without judgment. She is going to make a great counselor and will help many people in her future career. I love seeing her grow and change with each passing year. She is beautiful beyond her own comprehension and is the one person in the entire world that I feel completely safe sharing anything and everything with. Some of my favorite memories with her took place this past summer when we’d talk (and sometimes cry) over our lunch breaks at my mom’s work as we shared what was within our hearts. My middle sister, Stephanie, is literally my saving grace. She is the reason I am still alive today. I don’t think she will ever realize all that she means to me. Steph is a true middle child. She has always strived to be the smartest and most successful child in our family (and I truly think she is). She is so unbelievably smart and has a knack for business. She is going to be that elite businesswoman with the cute pencil skirts strutting through her office halls shooting out witty comments as she passes by. She is a smart-ass and I love her for it, even if, at times, it causes us to fight. I really missed her this summer when she was away in Europe and having her gone made me realize just how important both of my sisters are to me. I am so lucky to not only have Stephanie and Lindsey as sisters but also as best friends. I know our relationships will only flourish as we age and I can hardly wait when the three of us end up living in the same retirement community playing board games, discussing childhood memories, and watching our old favorite television shows (probably BTVS and The Office)! 🙂
8. For having a purpose in life– Some people go their entire lives never finding anything that they are truly passionate about. They get up each day with a chip on their shoulder, return to jobs they loath, lead lives they hate, and are never genuinely happy. I feel so lucky at the age of twenty-three to have already found my true passions in life. I have always had three life goals that I have worked towards attaining most of my teenage years and every day of my adult life. I know I will be perfectly content with my life when these goals are met (and of course, other goals will take their place). I just recently added a fourth life goal, one I never would have imagined wanting to pursue, and I can’t wait until it comes to fruition. More to come on this topic in a later post… Stay tuned! 🙂
9. For friendship- I have been blessed with a wide variety of friends over my lifetime. One of my favorite quotes states, “God doesn’t give you the people you want, He gives you the people you NEED. To help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you, and to make you into the person you were meant to be.” I truly believe that all the friends I have made, lost, and kept over the years have helped shaped the person I am. I’ve had friends who I have loved and thought would be lifelong friends but for whatever reason are no longer in my life. I’ve been taken advantage of as a friend and I know I’ve taken advantage of friendships. I’ve been hurt, disappointed, broken, and angered in different friendships. But most of all, I’ve been uplifted by them. Every single friend I’ve had has given me a valuable gift that I will take with me throughout life. I believe the people who have come and gone in my life have paved the way for the friendships that will last a lifetime. Right now I have an amazing group of friends who are supportive, loving, and enhance my life in so many ways. It would take forever to list all of their wonderful traits, qualities, and my favorite memories with each one (and this post is already WAY too long 😉 but you know who you are). So, I’ll simply say thank you to them for their friendship. I love each and every one of you (SB, LK, KH, LD, BB, AM and all of my other wonderful friends)! You make my life complete and give me something to smile about and be gracious for each day!
10. For being unique- No two people in this world are exactly alike. Hallelujah! I am so thankful for being a unique individual instead of a carbon copy of someone who came before me. I love that my sisters, friends, parents, and I have so many different interests in the world. I value our differences and treasure our similarities. I think life would be really boring if everyone in my life enjoyed all of the same things as I do. Our uniqueness helps us connect with different people in different areas of our lives. I love how my love of writing has connected me with former high school friends (and a few people I never really knew in high school), one very special girl from college, and many people I didn’t know as well beforehand. I love how I can go see all the weird and unconventional movies with my friend Kyle and talk about them afterwards even if we don’t have the same outlooks and opinions on them. I love how I can talk to my best friend, Steph about a situation and she’ll be completely honest with me even if I would rather she lie and agree with me sometimes. And I love, how despite our differences I can see all the beauty in the uniqueness of the people around me. I have learned and will continue to learn so much about the world, others, and myself through the unique qualities that they bring to our relationships, my life, and the world.
With that, I think it is time to wrap up. I thank you all for taking the time to read this extremely long (and hopefully at least somewhat entertaining and interesting) blog post. It may be a bit cliché to focus on all the things to be grateful for in my life so close to the Thanksgiving holiday but I think it is appropriate to begin being more consciously gracious for the blessings I have in my life. I have always been a positive person who likes to search for the good in others but I want to do more of this- everyday. I want those in my life to know how much I appreciate them (their gifts, talents, and characteristics) because you never know when they may be taken from you. My hope is that in reading this post you are able to pick out the things you have to be so very thankful for. Whether you share your thankfulness with others or simply thank God for all He has blessed you with, give thanks for all you have in this world. You only have one life to live and it should be a life full of love, happiness, and most importantly, thanksgiving.
*”Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light.”* Albert Schweitzer
*”Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.”* W. T. Purkiser